Paying It Back

Ladies, fellow sisters (and the occasional gentleman) we all know of that monthly visitor we all have, you know whom I’m talking about, the one who doesn’t need an invitation and just pops up, whether you were expecting it or not. This guest goes by many names, usually of various relations; Aunt Flo, Cousin Cramps even Freddy. My personal favourite will have to be the “Red Wedding”. Whatever you call it

, it comes a calling.

Then we may know of another visitor we receive once a year .This visitor we receive with open arms, in fact we spend the whole year awaiting its arrival. For it brings with it promises of change, rewards, opportunity, this visitor is abundantly generous. The Month of Patience, Month of Victories, and the most highly regarded “Month of the Quran”.

The holy month of Ramadhan where you want to harvest each last bit of reward is slightly wasted during our unwelcomed visitors stay. This is owing to the fact that during these days women are exempted from not only fasting but also praying. This could not come at a worse time. Trust me there are days where I cherish (rather guiltily) these days, but not during Ramadhan.

While everyone around you is going about with their fasts, milking every single hour of the day, you just wait it out doing the little that you can to not completely waste the days. The whole while along you’re doing mental calculations on when you can resume fasting, the time, exact hour, if you can manage to squeeze in that shower right before dusk arrives. It’s a science that involves complex math, biology and bucket load of hope. It takes years to perfect and do safely.

Once you’ve ridden the crimson wave you grudgingly note down the number of days to pay them back later….whenever that is.

This, dear readers, is where the problem lies.

This practice of repaying fasts is something I still haven’t gotten the hang of, and I don’t know when I will. From conducting highly scientific research, I have found debtors can be grouped into three basic categories

  1. Eid’s done, Fasting commences

This group perplexes me and I’m in complete awe of. As soon as the Eid celebrations are over and done they get right to it. On paper it does seems pretty logical to get it out of the way once and for all, but what about the FOOD!!?? I mean, is it just me, but after a month of having to abstain from eating, anytime, anywhere, I kind of want to indulge or if it pleases me overindulge?

   2.I’ll give it a couple of days maybe weeks first

These are the people whom once Eid is over aren’t yet ready to jump back into the fasting wagon. They’ll take a couple of days, weeks, a month or to to get the job done. They aren’t necessarily procrastinators, they just prefer to take their time.

   3.Crap! It’s Shabaan already!

Then we have this lot. They get so caught up in their normal routines that the thought of repaying their fasts completely escapes them and if happens to cross their minds they swiftly push it back. Eating, drinking, general consumption is such a major part of their lives that to take a few days off is asking a lot of them. There will always be an all you can eat Tuesday somewhere, Chicken wing Thursday or you just know they will be serving those potatoes you love so much in the cafeteria. Before they realise it Ramadhan is just around the corner and not a single fast has been repaid.

Sadly, I belong to the last group, the procrastinators. I’m the kind of person who makes a list of food to eat DURING Ramadhan to have AFTER Ramadhan. For I feel there isn’t enough time between sunset and sunrise to have it all.

This habit isn’t something I or doubtingly anyone can be proud.

Procrastination is not necessarily bad depending on the matter you’re procrastinating on but for the subject at hand it needs to be eliminated.

Procrastination is a habit – a deeply ingrained pattern of behaviour. That means it won’t just break overnight. Habits only stop being habits when you have persistently stopped practicing them. This been said with the help of the Internet I came up with a step by step guide to beating procrastination. It’s not perfect but it’s a start.

  • Admitting that one has a problem with repaying their fasts ob time.
  • Recognizing a higher power that can give you strength.
  • Seek support from those around you
  • Work out why you’re procrastinating.
  • Adopt anti-procrastination strategies such as self-reward or peer pressure
  • Learning to live a new life with a new code of behaviour
  • Helping other who suffer from the same compulsion.

Procrastination may not be completely eradicated, but hopefully it can be converted to “Selective Procrastination”, something within your control. Old habits may die hard, but they still die. That coupled with a positive attitude anything is possible.

*I prefer to use this Romanization for I feel it’s more phonetically correct 🙂

4 thoughts on “Paying It Back

    1. Asalaam alaykum sister, as members of Muslimahsablaze blog we would like to sincerely thank you for the nomination and let you know we are up for it. 

      Looking forward for a great friendship 


      Yours Nasra, Munira, Farha and Maryam

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